~ Kenapa Wanita Menangis ? ~

Suatu ketika, ada seorang anak laki-laki yang bertanya pada ibunya.

"Ibu, mengapa Ibu menangis?".
Ibunya menjawab, "Sebab aku wanita".
"Aku tak mengerti" kata si anak lagi.
Ibunya hanya tersenyum dan memeluknya erat.
"Nak, kamu memang tak akan pernah mengerti...."

Kemudian anak itu bertanya pada ayahnya. "Ayah, mengapa Ibu menangis?,
Ibu menangis tanpa sebab yang jelas". sang ayah menjawab,
"Semua wanita memang sering menangis tanpa alasan".
Hanya itu jawaban yang bisa diberikan ayahnya.

Sampai kemudian si anak itu tumbuh menjadi remaja,
ia tetap bertanya-tanya, mengapa wanita menangis.
Hingga pada suatu malam, ia bermimpi dan bertanya kepada Tuhan,
"Ya Tuhan, mengapa wanita mudah sekali menangis?"

Dalam mimpinya ia merasa seolah Tuhan menjawab,

"Saat Kuciptakan wanita, Aku membuatnya menjadi sangat utama.
Kuciptakan bahunya, agar mampu menahan seluruh beban dunia dan isinya,
walaupun juga bahu itu harus cukup nyaman dan lembut
untuk menahan kepala bayi yang sedang tertidur.

Kuberikan wanita kekuatan untuk dapat melahirkan dan mengeluarkan bayi dari rahimnya,
walau kerap berulangkali ia menerima cerca dari anaknya itu.

Kuberikan keperkasaan yang akan membuatnya tetap bertahan,
pantang menyerah saat semua orang sudah putus asa.

Kepada wanita, Kuberikan kesabaran untuk merawat keluarganya walau letih,
walau sakit, walau lelah, tanpa berkeluh kesah.

Kuberikan wanita, perasaan peka dan kasih sayang
untuk mencintai semua anaknya dalam kondisi dan situasi apapun.
Walau acapkali anak-anaknya itu melukai perasaan dan hatinya.

Perasaan ini pula yang akan memberikan kehangatan
pada bayi-bayi yang mengantuk menahan lelap.
Sentuhan inilah yang akan memberikan kenyamanan
saat didekap dengan lembut olehnya.

Kuberikan wanita kekuatan untuk membimbing suaminya
melalui masa-masa sulit dan menjadi pelindung baginya.
Sebab bukannya tulang rusuk yang melindungi setiap hati dan jantung agar tak terkoyak.

Kuberikan kepadanya kebijaksanaan dan kemampuan
untuk memberikan pengertian dan menyadarkan
bahwa suami yang baik adalah yang tak pernah melukai istrinya.
Walau seringkali pula kebijaksanaan itu akan menguji setiap kesetiaan
yang diberikan kepada suami agar tetap berdiri sejajar,
saling melengkapi dan saling menyayangi.

Dan akhirnya Kuberikan ia air mata agar dapat mencurahkan perasaannya.
Inilah yang khusus Kuberikan kepada wanita,
agar dapat digunakan kapan pun ia inginkan.
Hanya inilah kelemahan yang dimiliki wanita,
walaupun sebenarnya air mata ini adalah air mata kehidupan".

~ Our First Father's Day Celebration ~

So...Our first ever Father's Day celebration...Me,Hubby and our lil' princess Aliya...!!!

It was 20 May 2010 and I am so blur how to celebrate the Father's Day to my hubby...I know it meant so much to him since this is his first ever celebration since being a father to our newborn princess Aliya on 6 May 2010..

Yet, I just basically complete my 44 days of confinement and I was hand full with all the routine to be arrange and learn with Aliya...cleaning up things since I was about to resume back to work...and thus I look almost like this...Can you imaging it...


So all I had to say to my darling hubby was to take and treat him out for a lunch and he was happy enough to accept it...But definitely I choose a place which it was the first ever both of us ever dining there....Guess where?


Yes ... It was Tony Roma's located at Midvalley which initially the que was so long but we had advantage since it was only 2 of us and a small space to cater Aliya's prem.

Funny things is we both was so into the enjoyment of the foods sampai lupa nak ambik gambar...hihih...Apa pun we really enjoy it and hope to dine again on a normal occassion.

To hubby, hope you really enjoy my treat and thank you so much for being a great friend, husband and now a definitely a good start as a father.

I love you sayang....

~' My First Ever Mother's Day Gift ~

For the first time in my 28 years of my life, I am called as a mother on 6 May 2010 when I delivered my lil' princess Nuroll Aliya Fadhilah. And with that I was so lucky to celebrate my first ever Mother's Day on 9 May 2010. There is no words to describe how happy and thankful I am to be given a chance by nature to carry the title as a "mother".

Myself and hubby did put a moment of discussion on how will our lil' princess called us. Mummy and Daddy ke?Ibu and Ayah ke?Mama and Papa ke?...Pening jugak..but we came into a conclusion that finally both of us will start to used Ummi and Abi to Aliya...sounds like the most suitable called to our baby towards us.

My hubby also take effort for the first time ever bought me a Mother's Day gift....I was so touch for his passion and commitment in rising up his family especially Aliya. He wanted to give the best for his precious daughter. Guess what he bought....

At the same time he also bought be a nipple cream to soothe me during my breastfeeding with Aliya...as I say he love both of us so much and I totally appreciate him so much...Thank you so much sayang....

On Mothers Day, pay your most humble tribute to Mother!


Mothers are everything for us when we are small...our lives revolve around her. For everything that we need we call mother. To protect us from all perceivable dangers we want her around us. To take us out we hold her arms. To kiss away our wounds we run to her. And for a warm hug and love we look for her. She is the focal point of our lives, the greatest human being in the world or should we say divinity on earth. On the special occasion of Mothers Day pay tribute to your mother - the greatest blessing of God on you.

On Mothers Day Thank your Mother
There is simply no way we can ever really thank mother for all she has done for us. She is the one who will be awake all night when we are sick. Praying to God to make us well and be ever ready to bear the pain that we may be experiencing. She is the one to wake up early in the morning to make the nicest tiffin and endure all our tantrums. Mothers are the ones who would forever complain that we are not eating enough or not eating right. They would cook all sorts of things so that we be strong and healthy. Mothers infact, worry more for our examinations than we must. They would take pains to complete our school projects leaving all other works behind while we play around with friends or just while away time watching movies.

On Mothers Day Apologise to your Mother
Mothers are the one on whom we put all the blame for our failures. We would not hesitate once to point her single faux pas though she would not miss even a slightest opportunity to praise us. Isn't it tough to imagine how she must have borne our temper tantrums when we were teenagers. And how hard we must have made her life by behaving so rude and difficult. And yet she was so astonishingly cool. It it easy for the kids to be so demanding from parents, specially mothers as we take her affection and care so much for granted. Most often to the extent of selfishness. Mothers Day is the right time to apologise for all the troubles that we gave to our moms, without even realising at most times how troublesome we must have been to her.

Celebrate Mothers Day with your Dear Mother
Mothers Day is the perfect day to celebrate the joys of having a mother. It is the time to make amends for not being able to spend quality time with her. So turn your wrongs right by making all efforts to give a perfect Mothers Day to your mother. Think about her likes and dislikes about gifts and idea on celebration and act accordingly. Strive to make Mothers Day absolutely hassle free for your mother and take the responsibilities on yourself for a day. Pamper her a little on this special day of hers just as she pampers you all the year round. Give her a warm hug and a big kiss as you wish her a Happy MothersDay!

~ Breastfeeding for Lil' Aliya ~

Alhamdulillah...can you believe it!!

My lil' princess Aliya is turning 1 month TOMORROW!!!

So far I am still breastfeeding (BF) her even though there are times I cater her with formula milk. I know that there are readers out there are so keen giving exclusive BF to their newborn but I have valid reason why cater her both. But I can't denied that BF has a lot of benefits in a lot of ways.

PROS

Now, when it comes to the advantages of breastfeeding, there are many different ones. These advantages affect both the mother and the child. Many medical professionals feel as if breastfeeding is the right choice of nutrition for newborns. This is because of the fact that milk that comes from the breasts contains a high level of nutrients, vitamins, and other essentials that are beneficial to the health. Refer to the list below for a more detailed description of some of the pros of breastfeeding:

1. One of the most common issues that women experience after giving birth is getting all of the weight off that they have acquired while carrying the child. By breastfeeding, the body will naturally burn calories. This will result in less weight, and the extra weight to burn off more quickly.

2. One of the main issues that new parents experience is the many new expenses that are encountered when a child arrives. By breastfeeding, you can save a lot of money annually. There is actually no need to purchase formula when you breastfeed.

3. The next advantage to feeding your child by this method is that there is a lot of flexibility. If you want to feed directly from the breast, you can. If you want to pump the breasts and then store the milk in bottles for later feedings, you can do this as well. This makes feeding extremely simple and convenient.

4. It has been discovered, through scientific studies and medical case studies, that women who feed their child in this manner are less susceptible to developing serious health complications like breast cancer and even ovarian cancer.

5. The next advantage to breastfeeding a newborn child is that this is part of the natural bonding process. It is important to bond as early as possible, and breastfeeding starts on day one of the child’s life!

CONS

Believe it or not, there are actually some cons when it comes to breastfeeding. While these disadvantages can be easily over powered with the advantages, in order to make a decision on whether or not this is the right choice for you and your family, it is only best to consider these things as well. The following list details the disadvantages many have found while breastfeeding:

1. The first disadvantage is that when a mother breastfeeds, it puts a lot of pressure on her. Ultimately, as a mother, you will be responsible for every single feeding that your child experiences. Sure, it is true that you can pump the breasts in order to store milk and/or allow others to feed the baby; this can also prove to be a large hassle.

2. While breastfeeding, you may notice that you feel more tired than usual. This is because this drains a lot of energy from the body. In addition to this, you may start to experience dryness in the nipple area, as well as other aches and pains. These symptoms are generally relieved by various over-the-counter pain medications, but many do feel this is one of the down sides to feeding in this manner.

3. Those that wish to work from home or go back into the workforce may find it difficult to find time to do the things that they need to do on a daily basis. The average newborn feeds approximately three to four hours a day, and for the busy woman, this may prove to be a burden on the schedule.

4. Many women find it uncomfortable to breastfeed in front of other people. This means that special care and consideration should be made when going somewhere because you do not want to have to feed the child while you are away.

5. Breastfeeding has often been deemed as a difficult task to accomplish. Learning how to perform this can be a bit challenging and you may find yourself becoming upset or anxious as a result of it.

Sewajarnya setiap ibu haruslah memberikan bayi mereka kolostrum yang sangat berkhasiat itu demi kesihatan dan pertumbuhan bayi yang tercinta. Sesungguhnya kasih ibu sentiasa padu dan salah satu caranya untuk membuktikan kasih itu adalah dengan memberikan nutrisi yang terbaik untuk anak – anak. Dan sesungguhnya, tiada nutrisi lain yang sebaik dan seistimewa susu ibu. Hapuskanlah kerisauan mengenai mitos – mitos yang menyelubungi kolostrum ini kerana sesungguhnya setiap ciptaan yang Allah jadikan itu adalah yang sebaiknya untuk umat manusia. Maka yakinlah, jika seseorang ibu itu mampu mengandung dan melahirkan anaknya, maka mengapa pula dia tidak mampu menyusukan anak itu dengan susunya sendiri? Berdasarkan jumlah kolostrum pada 3 hari pertama kelahiran, ramai ibu merasa risau dan berpendapat bahawa susunya tidak mencukupi untuk bayi itu. Tidak ramai yang mengetahui bahawa jumlah yang sedikit (37 ml) itulah sebenarnya yang hanya diperlukan oleh bayi. Itulah sejumlah yang kecil untuk keperluan dan saiz perut yang kecil. Sesungguhnya persoalan susu tidak cukup pada hari – hari pertama kelahiran adalah tidak wajar diutarakan. Jika ibu itu mengharapkan susunya mengalir mencurah – curah sehingga 500ml pada hari pertama, memanglah mustahil. Ini kerana bayi yang masih kecil itu tidak memerlukan jumlah susu yang banyak pada mulanya. Indah sungguh ciptaan Mu ya Allah. Kau jadikan sesuatu itu cukup berdasarkan keperluannya. Tidak lebih dan tidak kurang. Mengapa masih ramai yang ragu dengan ciptaan-Mu yang satu ini? Sedangkan Kau juga telah berfirman yang maksudnya: Dan Kami wajibkan manusia berbuat baik kepada kedua ibu bapanya; ibunya telah mengandungnya dengan menanggung kelemahan demi kelemahan (dari awal mengandung hingga akhir menyusunya), dan tempoh menceraikan susunya ialah dalam masa dua tahun; (dengan yang demikian) bersyukurlah kepadaKu dan kepada kedua ibubapamu; dan (ingatlah), kepada Akulah jua tempat kembali (untuk menerima balasan). (surah Luqman: 14).


" Penyusuan susu ibu merupakan pengalaman yang dipenuhi kasih sayang dan keintiman di antara anda dan bayi dan hanya berlaku untuk satu tempoh yang sangat singkat. Sebelum sempat anda menyedarinya, bayi anda sudah pun membesar dan perhubungan anda dengannya telah melalui satu dimensi baru.

Jadi, pergunakanlah masa ini bersama bayi dengan sebaik-baiknya. Berseronoklah dan hargainya dan apabila bayi melangkah ke peringkat berikut dalam kehidupannya, anda akan terkenang kembali dan bersyukur kerana anda sudah memberinya yang terbaik apabila dia sangat memerlukannya".

~ Our Lil' Princess Nuroll Aliya Fadhilah Bt. Mohd Fadzly~

Alhamdulillah....

Syukur....finally I safely delivered a baby girl name NUROLL ALIYA FADHILAH BT. MOHD FADZLY on 6 May 2010 @ 3.27 am (Khamis malam Jumaat) di HUKM Specialist, Bandar Tun Razak, Cheras. It was a moment to be remembered throughout my entire life and also towards my hubby.

Di hening senja 5 May 2010 sejurus waktu maghrib, perasaan yang berbelah bahagi terhadap perubahan diri menguatkan lagi bahawa masanya sudah tiba. Ingin ku kongsikan detik dan sebahagian perbualan yang dapat ku ingati along the way to delivered my lil' princess....

5 MAY 2010

~ 7:45pm ~

Discovered that I was having this liquid or fluid running down my thigh...still not knowing that it was a sign that the time has come. Called my mum explaining the situation and she was shockingly screaming asking me to go to the hospital. Yet since there is no pain I again ignore it.

~ 8:00pm ~

Called hubby since he is still at work and told him that there are high probability that I am expecting soon. He sounded nervous ...more nervous than myself. With a simple answer he mentioned he is on his way now or never...Had a small giggle listening how worried he was...

~ 8:10pm ~

My SIL gave a call saying that she got a call from my hubby and they are on their way to my house together with my MIL. Aiyo... I do not meant to trouble them yet since my hubby sounded serious explaining my situation so they are also alarm...Yet I am still cool at one end...

~ 8:30pm ~

The in-laws arrived accordingly and soon after my hubby reached along home. After further discussion I was to be brought to the emergency for further confirmation of my situation since my due date was 6 May 2010.

~ 9:30pm ~

Spoken to my hubby that I was so hungry and still wanted to stop by for a lite meal before anything happend. Imaging that I was somehow craving for "thosai" and also teh ais...had them accordingly but first time ever I did not finish it...funny somehow I felt that some people at the restaurant can feel that I was so nearly to delivered and yet still having meal at my favourite shop...ihihi...makes me laugh every time I recall it.

~ 11:30 pm ~

Reached the emergency of HUKM and straight head to the do the further check up. With me was my hubby and my MIL.At that point of time my heart started to crumble...I am starting to get scared...None stop I was saying such prayers so that everything is in a good condition.

6 MAY 2010

~ 12:00 am ~

Laying in the check up room alone..hearing my baby heart beat makes me wanna cry...takut pun ada jugak memandangkan this is my first ever experience. Then came a nurse saying that they can't get a better record of my baby heart beat since the baby somehow is sleeping. They gave a good push to my tummy trying to wake the baby up. Alhamdulillah the baby respond positively.Sempat lah jugak my MIL and hubby melawat kat dalam since their are worried apa lah kita buat lama betul...hihi...concern tu...

NURSE: Sakit tak? Ada rasa contraption tak?

ME: Takde pulak....

NURSE: Huh?? Takde...betul nie?? Bukan apa..laluan dah buka 4cm tapi ketuban puan tak pecah lagi....

ME: (Blur)..biar betul...habis tu macam mana nie....??

NURSE: Nampaknya saya pecah kan air ketuban puan dulu then saya akan call Prof. Hashim for further advise.

ME: Yelah...(padahal dalam hati punyalah takut)

After seeking Prof. Hashim advice...

NURSE: Nampaknya puan dah boleh masuk wad bersalin yek...nanti kami siapkan yek..

ME: What!!! masuk wad bersalin...???Mana hubby nie...aiyo...serious babe!!

~ 1:30 am ~

Heading to wad bersalin bersama MIL and my hubby...hati berdebar-debar...Tuhan saje yang tahu..Once reached the nurse bagi jap for my final toilet moment and tukar baju...Hubby was always with me...At the same time my mom,opah and my lil bro is on the way to HUKM...Gosh my contraption is getting painful every minutes.

~ 1:50 am ~

Nurse came in and asked whether I wanted for any epidhural jap....with my brave heart I shook my head saying "No!"...hubby just stand beside me supporting my decision...how much I appreciate him for being at my side..

~ 2:30 am ~

Contraption is getting worse...had gas suction for making me wave throughout my pain..yet it did not work..aiyo..painful man...hubby was there to calm me down but the pain was so crushing...rupanya ini rasa orang nak bersalin...

~2:45 am ~

Called the nurse and seek for epidhural jap...but it was too late baby!!! So no choice I had to face it....the pain while delivering my baby...Mulut kumat kamit membaca surah yang boleh menenangkan perasaan nie...Tangan digeggam erat si suami ensuring that he was there...

~ 3:27 am ~

Alhamdulillah....sekujur tubuh ditatang menandakan diriku selamat bersalin...me and hubby was so relief that everything when smoothly...Sejenak insan baru itu dilahirkan..segala keperitan hilang sekelip mata...Itulah kuasa Yang Maha Esa...dan sesungguhnya aku amat bertuah dapat merasai kenikmatan menjadi seorang ibu...

Here are some pictures of my new born princess...

And here are some pictures as at to day....She have grown and we are so proud of her...Alhamdulillah kami telah melengkapi sebuah keluarga yang bahagia....Amin!!!

Bermula satu lagi episod keluarga bahagia.....

~ Madzlan's Farewell Dinner @ Sri Ayutthaya, Damansara ~

So...it was the first so called the company dinner being held due to Madzlan's farewell party. He's leaving after serving about 7 years in IFSB...isn't that long enough to be in one place.Well asmentioned that he leave with dignity and honour....wonder whether I will have that passion to last that much long...huhu...

The dinner took place at the Sri Ayutthaya, Damansara and almost everyone attended the ocassion...


The food was great but I think its too pricey for me at this point of time to take out my hubby there...maybe next time ye sayang...I guess Hajris Mamak is good enough for both of us to hang out rite...affordable and just nice...hihi...don't get me wrong but one day I treat you ok..

Here are some picture taken by Bro Mizuan that I would like to share....

And finally the whole team...



But among all there is one picture that made me really impress and really thank Bro Mizuan...here it is..

Was I to blotted ...hihi...there was Prudence rubbing my tummy with my new born in it saying "Sayang...surely you are full after all what your mummy ate!!"

It was a nice moment that capture sponteneously....hihih..

Wonder what will be next in IFSB....

~ Nama baby apa yek ~

Gosh...there is about 3 months to go before my due date and since then myself and hubby are so much in discussion about what name to be given to our new born baby girl. Eventhough we were so much looking forward for a new born baby boy, an additional "pink" in the family with be merrier to right? Yang ye nya kami dah prepare name untuk baby boy but bila tahu it was a girl, suddenly we find it very much difficult to find a suitable name.Or is it myself are to fussy in picking it....hihi..


I started off buying books related to pregnancy and also how to give names to baby. Dalam buku tu ada banyak nama baby berserta dengan maknanya. The things is when time change even names to be given to baby evolve..huhu..makes me more confuse is choosing it. Kebanyakkan bagi nama anak memang dah ada makna, tapi most people nowadays especially the "malay" tend to give nama yang panjang. Kekadang berpatah-patah sampai panjang berjela. Lagipun nama tu kan sebagai doa.


So ... apa nama anak kami ye?

So far we agreed to remain part of my name.."nuroll"...are we are still working to make the ending of it...whatever it is...a name remain a name as long as it carries the right meaning for our beautiful daughter...and I believe my hubby are working hard on it so that both of us are happy and when our daughter are grown up she will also like her name so much..

Thus,papa..let's get to work ya...