~ Erti Sebuah Kemaafan ~

Maaf adalah kata benda yang bererti keampunan. Diberikan kepada kesalahan, kerana didorong oleh perasaan kasih, cinta, sayang, mahupun tak tega. Ketika menjadi kata kerja memaafkan, maknanya sebuah tindakan yang penuh dengan kebijakan yang bernuansa kemanusiaan yang tinggi.

Lupa adalah kata keadaan yang bererti alpa. Semacam tanda kekurangawasan daripada yang bersangkutan. Tetapi ketika menjadi kata kerja melupakan, mengandung makna melumpuhkan diri sendiri, sehingga seseorang menjadi alpa, tidak lagi ingat kepada sesuatu.

Memaafkan mengandung rasa mengampuni, tetapi tidak menjanjikan untuk bersedia menganggap itu tak pernah terjadi. Tetap menuliskannya di dalam sejarah, namun tidak lagi dengan luapan emosi yang normal. Peristiwa tersebut dilirihkan, dikendurkan, agar tak mampu menyentuh perasaan lagi.

Melupakan adalah seperti membatalkan kejadian. Tak hanya menghapus dari kenangan, tetapi juga mengeluarkan hal tersebut dari sejarah. Tapi di pihak lain, melupakan tak pernah mengampuni, tapi hanya ingin melenyapkan.

Jadi memaafkan tak selamanya berarti melupakan. Namun melupakan, bila tak ada pernyataan secara formal, sebenarnya secara diam-diam memaafkan.Manusia sebagai makhluk sosial tidak akan terlepas dari hubungan dengan manusia lain. Memaafkan dan terkadang melupakan merupakan bahagian dari keperluan hubungan sosial. Tanpa perasaan memaafkan, maka tidak akan berlangsung kehidupan manusia hingga saat ini. Nescaya akan ada banyak perselisihan yang tak kan pernah habisnya.

Manusia sebagai makhluk yang berakal juga memiliki perasaan. Kedua potensi itu memungkinkan untuk memiliki sifat-sifat yang mulia, tapi juga sebaliknya. Kedua potensi itu pula dapat merendahkan manusia lebih dari binatang.Rasa marah, kecewa adalah perasaan yang tidak dipungkiri dapat hinggap ke dalam hati setiap manusia. Rasa sakit yang ditahan, rasa kecewa yang kerap disimpan, keduanya bukan tidak mungkin justru malah akan menimbulkan penyakit hati manusia.

Manusia tidak akan pernah sempurna tanpa kehadiran manusia lainnya. Rasa marah yang mungkin saat ini disimpan, pernahkah terbesit kehadiran, keberadaan, dan keberhasilan kita juga karena kehadiran manusia lainnya.Memaafkan dan melupakan dilakukan kerana tiada berguna menahan perasaan yang justru membatasi kita dalam bergerak. Memaafkan dan melupakan dilakukan kerana buat apa perasaan yang dimiliki justru malah menyempitkan hati. Memaafkan dan melupakan dilakukan kerana ternyata perasaan yang kita tahan membezakan perilaku kita sesama saudara.

Memaafkan dan melupakan dilakukan kerana jika ternyata emosi yang kita tahan lahir bukan kerana Allah SWT.Islam sebagai agama yang mulia pun mengatur hubungan antara manusia. Bahkan Rasulullah SAW tidak memperkenankan saudara sesama muslim menahan amarah yang melahirkan permusuhan.

Dalam sabda Rasulullah SAW, "Tidak halal seorang muslim memutuskan hubungan dengan saudaranya (sesama muslim) lebih dari tiga hari. Barangsiapa memutuskan lebih dari tiga hari dan meninggal, maka ia masuk neraka." (HR. Abu Dawud, 5/215, Shahihul Jami' : 7635).Abu Ayyub Radhiallahu'anhu meriwayatkan, Rasulullah SAW bersabda, "Tidak halal bagi seorang memutuskan hubungan saudaranya lebih dari tiga malam.

Saling berpapasan tapi yang ini memalingkan muka dan yang itu (juga) membuang muka. Yang terbaik di antara keduanya yaitu yang memulai salam." (HR. Bukhari, Fathul Bari : 10/492).Sungguh, memang perasaan manusia terkadang menjadi perasaan yang tidak mudah dimengerti. Tapi Allah SWT memberikan manusia hati dan akal yang membuat manusia lebih mulia dari makhluk lainnya yang digunakan untuk memahami.

Memiliki sifat memaafkan dikatakan sebagai sifat yang mulia. Kerana dalam sifat maaf terhimpun sifat-sifat mulia lainnya. Hanya yang memiliki kesabaran dan kelapangan jiwa yang dapat memaafkan dengan tulus.Kelembutan hati dan besarnya ruang jiwa yang diberikan akan melahirkan sifat pengertian yang tidak mudah dimiliki. Seperti halnya ketika Rasulullah SAW sedang duduk seketika ditarik janggutnya hingga memerah oleh seorang Arab Badwi. Tetapi Rasulullah SAW tidak marah dan membalasnya. Atau ketika Rasulullah SAW dilempari batu oleh penduduk Thaif, yang bagi Malaikat Jibril sudah mengundang pedih dan menawarkan untuk menimpa mereka dengan gunung Uhud.

Tapi, tahukah engkau jawapan manusia yang paling mulia ini? Rasulullah SAW tidak membalasnya dan menjawab, "Sesungguhnya mereka hanya kaum yang belum mengerti," lalu Rasulullah SAW mendoakan semoga mereka mendapat hidayah.Tertunduk lemas hati ini jika bercermin kepada Rasulullah SAW. Sangat jauh dan betapa mudahnya membiarkan hati disempitkan oleh perasaan emosi yang datang dari syaitan.

Ya, di kehidupan ini menuju akhirat kelak, kita bukan hanya memerlukan untuk menjaga nama diperhatikan oleh makhluk langit, dengan beribadah semestinya. Tetapi kita juga perlu menjaga nama kita di antara makhluk bumi, agar ketika amal yang dilakukan tidak berkurang kerana ada yang keberatan akan perilaku kita.

Sesunguhnya aku memohon kemaafan dan juga memberi kemaafan agar hidupku dan juga insan disekeliling aku diberkati-Nya

~ Go... Go... My Hubby'z Barca ~

Finally they win...Barcelona lifts European crown from Manchester United...No wonder my darling hubby wore the jersey today...So cute and confident ..!!!! That's my hubby!!

Barcelona gave an emphatic answer to who is the best soccer team in Europe, dispatching Manchester United with a dazzling and dominating display to win the Champions League title for the second time in four seasons.

Samuel Eto'o...

Lionel Messi...

Samuel Eto'o scored 10 minutes in and Lionel Messi connected in the 70th, leading the Spanish champions to a one-sided 2-0 victory Wednesday night that prevented the English power from becoming the first team in 19 years to win consecutive European titles.

Dapatku rasakan ramai fan MU kat luar sana (including Mr. Kamaroll & my lil bro Reihan) amatlah kecundang...frust beb..!!

Glory ...Glory ....Barca!!!

Since when Mrs. Azrin minat bola nie....Macam tengok aje game pagi tadi...chottt!!!

~ Enough of Language ~

Darn...Had enough of sticking to this English language blogging. Not having any transparent on whatever I am going to blog on. Restriction of impression and feelings to all that was meant to be written. Thus, I am officially making my blog as a mixture of languages in between English and Bahasa Malaysia. Puft..!!!

Talking about language made my realized what have I gone through last weeks. So many words was spoken yet there are time it carries another meaning that what we were thinking. Sometime we thought that what we say was only an explanation yet impression made it percept it wrongly. We meant nice people say we are making fun of it. I am to dumb to say it or understand it or making an assumption is better than accepting the fact.

Menghadapi minggu yang penuh dengan high end vocabulary yang juga mengaitkan sekali dengan perasaan membuatkan aku rasa diriku amat dungu...Dungu kah aku??

Do I have to read books in order to learn and understand whatever the third party is talking about?Perlukah aku menyelami maksud setiap bibit kata seseorang itu walaupun that particular person don't even tried to understand me??

As what my mentor said that....World is never fair...So bangunlah dari tidur and look around you...arrrggghhh...!!!



~ if the language made any sense, a catrastophe would be an apostrophe with fur - Doug Larson

~ Breast Cancer Awareness Bag Print Design Contest ~

Prizes:

1st Prize:
WINNING DESIGN WILL BE PRINTED ON GIN & JACQIE TOTE CANVAS BAGS! (which will be sold across Malaysia and everyone will be carrying your design around!)

* RM1,000 Estee Lauder products
* RM500 Cziplee Artmakr product
* RM500 gin & Jacqie voucher

2nd Prize:

* RM500 Bobbi Brown products
* RM300 Cziplee Artmakr product

3rd Prize:

* RM500 Clinique products
* RM200 Cziplee Artmakr product

25 Consolation prizes:

* 2 TGV movie tickets

50 x Early Bird Gift

* 50 pieces of LIMITED EDITION Inner Secrets camisole just for this contest!

End Date: 30/06/2009
Tie-breaker: [ design/creative ]
Submit Via: Online, Mail-In
Frequency: One-time Contest
Purchase: Free to Enter
Organizer / Company: Emmagem.com/ Gin&Jacqie

Rules / Description:

Step 1 - read:

Read all about breast cancer and be aware of what’s happening. We’ve compiled some useful links here. Click and read. Learn the symptoms, how to self examine your breasts, statistics and precaution steps. Educate yourself about breast cancer and think about how to share this information to others by designing something on a bag.

Step 2 - design

Put on your thinking cap and start designing! Design a print to represent “what breast cancer means to you” OR “ help promote breast cancer awareness”. Ensure that you’ve included a PINK RIBBON in your design. Design within the template and indicate on the left bottom bag where you’d like the design to be.


Two ways:

1. by downloading the JPEG

2. by downloading PDF file (click here)


Your challenge is to create a design that will inspire thousands to become breast cancer aware.

How you go about achieving this is up to you. Your design could for example:

* inspire others to support the fight against breast cancer
* encourage people to raise funds for breast cancer research
* communicate what breast cancer awareness means to you
* signify the hope that research gives and the importance of being breast aware

Inspire us with your design!!!!!!!!

Design Rules:

* Submission starts from 15th May 2009 - 30th June 2009
* The color, shape and placement of the “pink ribbon” can be manipulated as the designer sees fit. However do note that the color of the ribbon must remain PINK.
* The design may contain a maximum of 8 unique colors. Submissions will be declined if the design contains more than 8. Each shade (e.g. Sky blue and Royal blue will be considered 2 colors) of a color counts toward the 8 color limit, as do black and white
* The design MUST have a title, description and MUST be an original creation.
* Use this file as a template for your design. The design can be placed on any location of the bag.
* File submitted must be in JPEG form and not more than 1MB/1024kb.
* Example of design, colour count and placement of design.

Step 3 - submit:

Once you’ve designed your bag, submit your design by uploading it along with your title, description and personal details. Click here to be redirected to the submission form.

Step 4 - vote:

Starting from 1st - 20th July, come back to the site and start voting for your best design to be printed on a canvas tote bag! Winners will be picked based on voting and judges decision. The best design will get their designs printed onto gin & Jacqie canvas tote bags which will be on sale in support of BCWA.
Contest Locality: National / Malaysia
Contest URL/Website: http://www.emmagem.com/bagprintdesign

~ Marriage Is.... ~

Marriage Is...: Filling in the Rest of the Sentence

1. Not always easy.

2. Sometimes aggravating.

3. About needing to trade places (i.e. putting yourself in your spouse's shoes) from time to time. (Especially helpful to do when they're upset and biting but you're not sure why. Seeing life from their eyes can help figure out what's troubling them, which in turns help you figure out how to best be there for them.)

4. Getting satisfaction not from all your spouse does to make you happy, but from all you do that brings him or her happiness.

5. Adding extra crushed red peppers to the spaghetti sauce and chili to make it hotter than you like to accommodate your spouse's taste buds. (Alternatively, it's leaving out some peppers when you know your spouse prefers a more mild seasoning.)

6. Being comfortable with being vulnerable and trusting your heart to another.

7. Staying healthy and growing old together.

8. Realizing sometimes memory fails and details are lost, but the heart never forgets what's important.

9. Sharing dessert.

10. Picking up the slack when your spouse isn't able to.

11. Being able to both accept and forgive when an "I'm sorry" is offered.

12. Learning how to say "I'm sorry."

13. Saying "I'm sorry" when you don't know why you should have to other than you know it'll help restore harmony.

14. Extending your hand to offer comfort and reassurance when things get tough or scary.

15. Saying what you mean, when you mean it, tactfully and respectfully.

16. Respecting your spouse's opinions, inclinations, and hobbies.

17. Cherishing each married moment.

18. Being able to make each other laugh whether you're rich or poor, having good times or bad, in sickness and in health.

19. Listening more and talking less.

20. Remembering not to get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life. (I see this saying in catalogs all the time for pictures and plaques and stuff. I thought it's message beared repeating.)

Out of the 20 listed items above, I am still struggling to fulfill most of it. All I know I will work so hard to made him know that I love him so much....

~ Happy Teacher's Day ~

This Teachers’ Day I would like to thank my many teachers who have influenced me one way or another. It saddens me that some of them are no longer with us. Their good work will be remembered. I am glad that I had taken time to say thank you and keep in touch with some of them.

I seem to be in the time of my life when I can reminiscent. So I will. I remember my first Teachers’ Day as a student. We were in Standard One. I don’t remember any other Teachers’ Day celebration after that. The next time I was involved in a Teachers’ Day celebration, I had become a teacher myself, almost 14 years later. That is another chapter in my life which I won’t go into this time. We do need to celebrate our teachers. They deserve it. Even those who weren’t wonderful, they taught us what we shouldn’t be. I have been blessed with many many wonderful teachers. Without offending any I would like to mention just a few.

So this year, let us not forget our teachers who made us what we are. A special word of thanks to all my students who have also been my teachers and are now teachers themselves to others. God bless! Don’t lose heart. Keep the passion alive.

~ Beloved Grandmama & Grandpapa ~

Well this is my very best pair of grandmama and grandpapa. My grandpapa's name is Raja Baharuddin B. Raja Mat while my grandmama's name is Rodziah Bt. Ngah Shariff. Upon their marriage they were bless with 3 children which is my mum and two of my uncles.

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Both of them have taken care of me since I was a baby till I was about 4 years old. Cherish me as if I am their own child rather than their grandchild. Especially since I am the eldest grandchild thus everyones attention was to me.

However, a few years back my grandpa passed away due to heart complication and now left my grandma alone.

Dear God...bless my grandpa soul for his among the precious person anyone could be with....I am so proud to have him as my grandpa...

"Atok"...I miss you so much and wish you would still be around to watch me and my new family now...this poem is dedicated to you grandpa....

Granddad, you were just a lad,
So many years ago.
You had your loves and had your dreams,
You watched us come and go.

You watched us make the same mistakes,
That you had made before,
But that just made you hold us tight,
And love us all the more.

We haven’t always thought about
The things that you have seen.
To us you’ve just been ‘Granddad’,
No thought of who you’ve been.

But we remember now in love,
Your life from start to end,
And we’re just glad we knew you,
As Granddad, and as Friend.